There’s truly never enough hours in the day to get it all done. Seriously. You’ll never get it all done. So don’t you think it’s a good idea to sit back for a second and evaluate what’s actually important and needs to “get done?” And what about what you need – where does that fit in? If we spend all our time doing, where does the being happen?
When everything is a priority, you’ll get lost in the chaos. You’ll spend your days running here and there, doing this and that, giving your all, all day long. Then you’ll spend your last few minutes before you close your eyes filled with guilt and regret. Regret of all the things you didn’t get to, the life you didn’t live. The moments you missed with your kids, the nap you could have taken, the sunshine you never saw, the husband left craving your attention, that bill you forgot to pay and the guilt of it all weighing on your shoulders as you drift off to sleep.
Make yourself a priorty. it’s not selfish, it’s necessary.
I see mothers everyday struggle with prioritizing themselves. Culture teaches us that a good mother is a sacrificial one. But you do not have to sacrifice yourself to be a good mother. You can be a good mother AND prioritize what matters to you. You can prioritize yourself AND show up for the people you love. Somewhere along the way we were taught you have to choose, but it’s just not true. In fact, self-sacrificing over time leads to resentment, dissatisfaction and discontentment with your life. Resulting in frustrated, overwhelmed, unseen women who just want out.
How do you even begin to prioritize yourself? You may feel like you barely know yourself. The only things important to you are the other people in your life and how you can meet their needs. You may feel guilty at first. You may have a hard time saying yes to yourself. That’s okay. It gets easier and you will eventually feel a shift happen. You will start to feel joy in a way you haven’t in a long time. That joy will be palpable to your friends and family and you’ll start to feel a sense of peace you haven’t felt before. The kind of peace you can only feel when you feel fully seen, heard and accepted. Worthy. Only this time – you gave it to yourself, and you can keep it forever. You deserve to make yourself a priority.<3
Need help figuring what matters to you? Try this value exercise to get to know yourself a little better.
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