From the day we are born into this world, we are expected to do something. While mostly out of love, expectations are still thrown at us. As we grow up our own expectations start to grow within us, based on what we see and hear from those around us. From that very first day, we are expected to be a certain way, act a certain way and often look a certain way. You have expectations of yourself that you are not even aware of! Every single thing you do throughout the day is a choice. A choice you make because of an expectation you set for yourself. What we need to stop doing, is expecting more than we can handle from ourselves.
You are KILLING IT. Your kids are fed, nourished, loved and living a good life.
Stop trying to be perfect. Stop trying to be superwoman. Stop trying to be anything other than who you are.
When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself who you are. “I am a great mother. I love my kids and I am doing a great job.” Say it to yourself. Write it down everyday. BELIEVE it. Don’t continue to let your unconscious, unrealistic expectations define what kind of mother you are.
I don’t know about you, but when I became a mother I set that bar so high that no matter what I did, I’d never reach it. I still have days
I have to remind myself that I’m expecting too much. Sometimes I stop myself in the middle of a spiral and remind myself that I am enough, I have done enough and the world won’t end if I leave dishes in the sink or laundry in the dryer. All that stuff you did today – yeah that’s called life. That’s a lot of stuff! I have a few close friends that often remind me to practice what i teach. It’s hard guys. This motherhood thing is no joke. There are so many faces of a mother. So many expectations of a mother. Just remember that you hold the power. At the end of the day, it is your decision to move the bar. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks – not if you don’t let it matter. There will be bad days. There will be good days too. There will be days your hormones run the show and you feel a little crazy…and that is okay! It is okay to cry. It is okay to not be okay. We all have had days when we feel like we aren’t enough. You are enough.
“Release your expectations, so that you can be freed. Freed from pressure, freed from guilt, freed from regret of being exactly all that you need to be right now.” -MAH